June 15, 2010

Hi, my name is Jessica...

and I have an addiction problem.

Yes, it's true. I am addicted to the Internet.

I've been seeing a little survey going around on blogger, where the husband answers questions about his wife. I thought it was cute and was curious to see what my husband would say, so I put him up to it. He begrudgingly obliged. I had full intentions of posting it up this week, but then decided against it. For as much of an open person I am, Trey is completely the opposite. He's a very private person and took the survey a lot more seriously then I thought he would. All of the answers were sweet and it turned out to be a good thing because it opened up conversation between us. We talked for probably an hour after it. TV off, no distractions, just us chatting. Sadly, that doesn't happen as often as it should.

The only reason I bring this up is that it made me realize my "addiction". I will share one answer-
Q: What is one thing your wife does that drives you crazy? (for real, not in a freaky way)
A: Spends a lot of time on the Internet (blogs and facebook) and then stresses out when you haven't gotten anything done.

At first I was defensive. I have found myself feeling bad because I'm not getting as much done around the house as I used to. And when he comes home, sometimes I talk to him about that. But that has nothing to do with my being on the Internet and all to do with the fact that I just don't have the energy right now (my growing child is sucking it all right out of me). So it was important to me to get that misconception out of the way.
He explained that he doesn't care that the house isn't immaculate or that he has to pick up some of the slack. What's really been bothering him is the fact that we'll wake up on a Saturday morning and after breakfast, he's ready to go go go. Especially being in a new city... he wants to get out there and explore it. In the meantime, I'm sitting around checking facebook, reading waaayyy too many blogs and trying to comment on whatever I feel the need to comment on, and even writing one of my own posts. Two hours later, he's incredibly antsy and I don't want to do much because of the heat.

He has a major point. He works hard all week and looks forward to the weekend to spend some QT together and do something new. Here I am, so wrapped up in myself, that I'm not even thinking about what he wants to do. Of course I want to spend time with him. And I do want to get out there and do as much as we can by ourselves before Andrew gets here. And yes, I'd love to get an early start before the heat takes every ounce of energy out of me. But I can't deny the fact that I almost feel some sort of responsibility towards blogger as well. And that is just ridiculous.

To get to the point... I'm going to be going back to the basics. I've already started going through blogs and deciding which ones I really can't live without. That way I'll still be reading the ones that I'm really connected to and can relate to, and hopefully leave more thoughtful comments on those. I'm going to have to cut the amount that I have been reading way back and I hope I don't offend anyone by doing so. I'd love to keep up with every one's blog that follows mine, but I also need to put real life first. I've gotten way too sucked into this online world. At the same time, I don't want to dissuade new followers from introducing yourselves!
I'm going to attempt to cut blogging out during the weekend as well. Baby steps here...

Thanks for listening to me blab and I hope everyone can understand!


JG said...

Ah, another one bites the dust. ;) But really, I think this is pretty universal. Back in the day I was really good about taking weekends and evenings off. I'm having to work myself back.

Shayla said...

blogging is sooooooooo addicting!!!!

I can totally relate to how your hubby feels, mine has pretty similar feelings towards it (and we aren't even living together right now) I feel like when I do move in I will have to cut back on it too!!!!

Take care of your sweet husband, and take a much needed break for yourself beautiful :) No regrets...it's just blogging after all!!!!

Dave and Ashley said...

Kudos to you! Your husband/marriage is the most important thing you need to take care of!

Chelle said...

Completely understand where you are coming from. It's very hard to break the "addiction". I know I go through periods where all I do the minute the kids lay down for naps or gone to play with friends is pop on here and just waste away the day. I'm pretty good and keeping it at bay right now but I know when my husband deploys it will be even worse, because I use the internet a lot of the time to just pass the day and dull my thoughts. Because we all know FarmVille requires no real concentration. lol

Steph said...

I cut back awhile ago. I only blog and read blogs during the weekdays. I don't have time for it in the evenings when I should be spending time with the hubby and doing homework.

Blessing said...

I totally get you honey. I am sure when my husband returns from training, I will be doing thesame thing. I need you to work on your marriage girl. This blog thing is just a way to while away time for most of us since some husbands are deployed, but take advantage of the fact that your husband is with you, and dont let him feel rejected or alone when he really needs you. All the best hon!

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Kayla Sue said...

Oh man, I can totally relate!! I'm always on the internet...it's kind of pathetic, really. And I get upset when I don't get anything done around my house!

Kudos for scaling back your blogging time:)

Anonymous said...

I feel your pain on this one.. I've had to cut waaaay back as well. It gets too overwhelming otherwise. You wind up spending all of your free time trying to keep up with a million different blogs and before you know it, your afternoon is gone. But at the same time, it's tough decide who to stay loyal to. I hope you find a good balance and just know that we all love you and know that you have to do what's best for YOU :)