April 13, 2012

A Mom is a Mom is a Mom

I'm not going to turn this into a SAHM vs. Working Mom debate, because I don't think it should exist. You do what's right for you and your family. Either way it's a tough decision and I believe every woman is going to have doubts/insecurities/guilt etc. no matter which decision she makes. So I'm not going there and don't want this to turn into any kind of debate.
But with all of this hype in the news and media lately, I have to at least touch on what's been on my mind.

It's so frustrating and drives me absolutely crazy. We're all Moms. We have a huge thing/s in common! We're raising children and whether you are with them all day or they are in daycare, is a tough, tough job. I know it's the hardest/most rewarding thing I've ever done with my life.
So it drives me crazy that a lot of us spend all of our time tearing each other down instead of building each other up. We can be each other's greatest resources. Instead of judging, casting blame and tearing apart, we could be uplifting each other. Consoling each other when we've done something we regret. More experienced moms giving well-intentioned, supportive advice instead of making the younger mom feel terrible or insecure if she's doing something differently than you. Reassuring a working mom that her kids don't harbor ill feelings towards her if she goes out to work in the morning and doing the same for SAHMs. Not making them feel like lesser members of society because they are not bringing in a paycheck.

So, that's all. I just wanted to touch on that. I'm lucky enough to be surrounded by mostly the kind of mom-friends that do uplift each other, whether they are here locally, a phone call away, or blogger/twitter friends. I hope that I am always the type of friend I would want for myself.

SAHM or working mom.. whichever you are... your child loves you for who YOU are. Whether you are with them 10 hours a day or 3.


Just Ask Beth said...

very well- said! And younge moms who snub the more experoienced mom because they think they know it all.. It is ALL a CRAP SHOOT, what worked for me MAY NOT work for you, I am just saying..hey this worked for us, you may or may not want to try it.. Mothering is a full time job..24/7 with NO TIME OFF..most moms who work have to, it isn't a choice..to me staying home is just as hard as punching the clock!!

Mel said...

Sweet words - good for you!

Ashley Gaetano said...

Amen :} (BT-Dubs...your security thingy is making me type "asswelk" Wow.)

Jennifer Dignazio said...

I don't watch the news, so I'm not sure what exactly is going on (oh, ignorance is bliss!), but I do think it is so sad when moms attack each other. You said it so well. Glad you have good, supportive moms around you! (PS: Am so glad we're twitter friends! It's so FUN!) :)

Jen said...

Wonderful post!!!

Becca said...

Love it! There is always so much under the surface too--better to approach kindly and figure out the situation before jumping to conclusions. Not like I have kids yet, but I see it enough at school between teacher/child and parent/child! (As far as giving advice goes!)