March 24, 2011

Trip home - Part 3

Friday started the craziness of wedding preparation! We did all of the normal wedding weekend activities: nails done at the salon, a quick lunch and dressing up, rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. The rehearsal started at three and was at the country club. The same country club that Trey and I were married at, so it was very reminiscent for me. Especially because he couldn't be there.. it made me a little sad. But joyful at the same time. It was nice to relive that. Oh, yes, that was an important factor wasn't it? Trey wasn't able to make his little sister's wedding. Army.. I'll leave it at that. It was heart breaking.
Everything went really well. I would say the only part that was not so wonderful was being around Trey's biological mother and figuring out how to interact with her. Long, awful story that I won't get into out of respect for my husband and his family, but basically, he doesn't have much of a relationship with her. AT ALL. Not a good one at the very least. And he has very legit reasoning for not having a relationship with her all of which I have heard about and have seen the ramifications for her actions all throughout the 8 and 1/2 years that I have been with him. Soo.. it's hard for me to socialize with her. I've only seen her like 3 or 4 times at most since I've known him. It was incredibly awkward. It was the first time she saw Andrew and was very very awkward with him (I'll probably say that word 100 more times in this paragraph.. there's just no other word to use). I don't think she every really spoke to him.. she would just come up to us (well.. once) and stare at him. Awkward. At some points I felt rude.. but I really didn't know how to handle the situation. Trey said he would have been the same way.. but all in all.. it was awkward.
The ceremony was beautiful and I wish I had pictures to post, but the only ones I've seen are all from the professionals and I don't know if I should post those or not. They did an amazing job with the pictures btw! The reception was pretty short, but we had a great time out on the dance floor!
She made the most beautiful bride! I slept real well that night!!

After the wedding, my trip was coming to an end, but we made the most out of the rest of it.
Drew spent the night with Trey's family on Sunday. I know they loved getting the one on one time with him and I enjoyed a night off. Win win for all! Oh yeah.. before I dropped him off we went to one of my best friends Emily's daughter's (Reece.. did you get that??) 1st birthday party. I was so thankful to be home for that! We have betrothed them together and they seem to be okay with that :)
There's Ashleigh in the picture above :) She is expecting little Madison in July and we can't wait to meet her! Her and Matthew (her husband and Trey's long time bff) came over my parents house that night for dinner. I'm so glad that I got to spend a good amount of time with her. Well considering the busy schedule!

Saying goodbye (or "see you later") to my parents was more difficult than it normally would be. Every time that I've visited so far, I've already had another trip planned. It was easy to say, see you in this many months! Not this time though. It's expensive to fly out of El Paso. And it takes a lot to pack up Andrew's life and have him readjust. So, I'm not sure when the next time I'll be back is. That made it very hard to walk away from them. I swear, no matter how much I start to enjoy El Paso and appreciate the life Trey and I have made for ourselves, it NEVER gets easier. Not even a tad. I love my parents so much and despise being away from them. Can't we just move a little closer Army, pretty please??


Jen said...

I always hate saying goodbye to family. I'm glad you were able to visit them. :)

Cam and Kristy said...

When you figure out the secret to getting the Army to move you closer to home, fill me in!!! Until then, your Army family will try to help with some of the loneliness! :D

Susan said...

Just blogging around this evening and found your blog. Yes, being in the military can be a bag of mixed blessing. My husband is 20 years retired Air Force, so I am so grateful we made it and have our retirmenet income and benefits.
But there were the struggles over the years. The TDY's that they now call deployments, but all and all it was all worth it. You get used to the fact if your washer is going to break, it will when he's gone, so you become somewhat self sufficient in many areas.
So hang in there it is an adventure, and remember the special hugs and kisses when they first return, you will always take them with you in your memories as the years go by. Good luck and much happiness. Thank you for letting me visit.
If you like animals here is a fun read with fun picture of our little pug.